I love you. You know that already, but I’ll probably say it several times throughout this regardless. I also realise this is more for me than it is for you, because you cannot read English well. But I want to do it all the same.
By the time you were my age you had already immigrated to a foreign country without a single qualification or a word of the native language that could help you navigate your surroundings. You slept on the floor with several other people in a room that was meant for one. You came with the intention of studying but realised that repaying the debt you accumulated from so many family members to get here meant you needed to find work. You were desperate to send back the money, so abandoned the plan to go to school and sought anyone who would give you a job. This meant you had to let yourself work for a few measly dollars an hour, for employers who would regularly cheat you out of your hard earned money. You had no one to confide in, no one to trust and nowhere to find help. You have done things I cannot fathom, things I could never have the courage for, to give me the life and future I have today. I love you.
I never appreciated it as a child, but you worked hard for me. How did it feel waking up at 2am to do the night shift at the bakery, then have to go to your second job afterwards? How did it feel putting that weight on your back every day so that you now live with a bulging vertebral disc and chronic back pain that keeps you up at night? Because I wouldn’t know. I love you.
I cherish the love you give me, the purest of loves that makes me believe I can conquer the world as long as I have you by my side. Everything you do is for my benefit, my interest and my priorities. You scrimp and save so that although you buy ten dollar t-shirts and will only have three pairs of pants, I wear nothing but the best and am indulged in a blue Tiffany box every birthday. You avoid holidays and travel so that you can stay home and look after me even though I am a grown adult who should be able to care for myself. You buy me anything I want without question or hesitation, even though I have my own part-time work and should be buying my own things. You decline any offer of presents or treating you to things, because somehow my money is more valuable and needs to be saved. I love you.
I look at you today and fear what I see. The sprouting of grey hairs, the wrinkling of the tired eyes, signs that your youthful invincibility is beginning to wane. I wonder whether you regret any decisions, if perhaps money wasn’t an issue you would have gotten an education and become a fancy businessman. You are a smart, intelligent man, and I know there was potential wasted. I wonder whether you have enjoyed your life thus far, and are happy with what you have achieved. I am glad you are now retired and no longer have to endure hard labour, but I am sad knowing the toll it has had on your body. Our house, car and possessions may pale in comparison to others, but what we lack in riches we have in love and an unbreakable family bond. You worked hard for what we have, and I could not ask for more. You make sacrifices for me every day, and it is a debt I will never be able to repay in full.
However, I will try. I promise that I will be by your side as you have done for me. I promise I will buy you things without question or hesitation. I promise we will go on holidays and experience all the food, culture and luxuries you deserve. I promise to make time for you regardless of what is happening in my life. I don’t believe for a moment I can be as selfless, giving and loving as you have been to me, but I will try my utmost to achieve even a tenth of that. I love you.
How beautiful is the love you have for your father. Wonderful to read this!
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This is written with such love and kindness adoration. I am sure he would likely do the same things he did again because he wanted his child to have the moon. What a grateful and loving letter. Hugs Joni
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Thank you Joni, I do hope I can show my appreciation and make sure I try to be the best daughter I can be
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I think you already have. Your father is blessed to have you as a daughter and you are truly blessed to have such a loving father. Love 💕 Joni
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Thank you Joni ❤
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If you give your father your time and your love, you make him as rich as anyone.
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Beautiful, very touching 😊
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Thank you!
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Your writing is beautiful… And it’s hit me straight to the heart… Until now…I’m still thinking about him…I wish I could turn back time and tell him that I love him .. 😔
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I am sure he knows and is very proud of you. You continue living your best life and that will be all he’d ever wanted ❤
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Thank you so much dear
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A lovely tribute. Your father is already enjoying the benefits of all he’s sacrificed, watching you grow and thrive.
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Thank you 🙂
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This is a lovely tribute to your father and love for each other. I hope you can give him your presence and love.
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I hope so too
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This is so beautiful and straight from the hart. Translate it for him, please?
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You know someone else said the same thing. I’m a little too shy and embarrassed to share with him at the moment, but I will!
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I’m not going to tell you what to do because it is not my place. I just know from experience that speaking from the heart touches the heart.
And as a doctor you surely will know that it is also healthy for the heart 😊
You know yourself best but in my opinion this to too beautiful to let it fall through the cracks.
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Thank you, I will definitely share it with him 🙂
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Helen, it’s great that you can appreciate all the sacrifices your father has made to bring you to this point in your life. I would suggest that you put all that you’ve expressed in this post in the language he understands and mail it to him.
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Thank you Rosaliene, you know a few people have told me the same thing. I still live with my parents at the moment and I see him every day, but I’m feeling a little shy to read it out to him right now. I promise I will though!
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I know the feeling, Helen. You could also print it out and place it in a card for his birthday, Father’s Day, or some other important anniversary. Blessings ❤
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That’s a very good idea! I think I might take that piece of advice 🙂
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This is beautiful. A great tribute to your Dad’s struggles and sacrifices. Kudos to you for recognizing and writing. Share with him in his language. 💕
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Thank you 🙂 I know, I definitely have to tell him but I’m feeling a bit shy and it’ll make me emotional. I’m working my way up to it!
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This is wonderful. ❤️
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Hello! Thanks for much for visiting 🙂 I sometimes like to just go onto the search page and see what has been recently written by the community, or will look up some interesting tags. Upon good fortune I would have come across your blog, good luck with everything!
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What a beautiful letter. I hope you translate it for him. It would be a shame for him not to read it.
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I know, I do want him to know but I am a little shy to show him right now. I will at some point, and hopefully be able to express my love to him in the right ways 🙂
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This made me cry.
Respect and salute to your dad.
(Tell him I said it please)
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Awe… How precious… Bless you!!! ;-)))
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Aww will do! Thank you so much ❤
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Beautiful
❤❤❤
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Most admirable post.
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This is so very beautiful and straight from the heart. An exceptional tribute from a grateful child, this is ALL any parent longs to hear from their child, the acknowledgement of sacrifices made. Just lovely, your dad would be so happy and proud to hear this.
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Aww thank you so much! I don’t think I could ever repay him but am going to try 🙂
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Heya! I’m at work browsing your blog from my new iphone! Just wanted to say I love reading through your blog and look forward to all your posts! Keep up the great work!
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I was wondering if you ever thought of changing the page layout of your blog? Its very well written; I love what youve got to say. But maybe you could a little more in the way of content so people could connect with it better. Youve got an awful lot of text for only having one or two pictures. Maybe you could space it out better?
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Thanks Lawerence for the feedback! I’m still fairly new to the game so have a lot to learn about creating a user-friendly blog. I didn’t realise there would be an option to showcase all the imaged on my home page, so hopefully now it looks a little better. I’ll have to look at some other themes and better ways to lay everything out!
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Helen this is such a beautiful piece of writing, straight from the heart. I must admit I shed a little tear. I hope your dad gets to read it one day.
Mary xx
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Hi Mary! Thank you so much for reading ❤ Dad knows how much I love him, and don't worry I'll share it with him 🙂
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Beautiful letter. Thanks for writing it and sharing it.
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Thank you 🙂
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This is such a well written note. Having lost my dad made me want to encourage to cherish every moment that you have. All the best for you
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I am sorry for your loss and I wish you the very best. Thank you very much for reading and those sweet words.
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This has made me emotional!
Kudos to the struggle of your dad and the hundreds of thousands of fathers who sacrifice their dreams and wants for their kids each day with a smile!
Thanks to you, young lady! For acknowledging his efforts💛
Stay blessed! ☺😇
-theinkwarrior
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Thank you very much!
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Let me say I’m quite happy and speechless at the same time. But I really want to comment on this post. Your dad is a hero, and I’m sure you already acknowledge that. What you are doing here is and will give senses and provide hope to those who think less of themselves and their families.
Stay confident and remain a blessing.
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Thank you Victor!
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